I’m sure that if I could see through the virtual world and into your space many hands would be sheepishly raised. Mine included.
That is until it dawned on me that if I don’t make time for me, who will? If I’m not happy and healthy then how on earth am I going to get through my day? If I’m not feeling good I’m certainly not going to be the best person I can be.
Break the phrase “if only I had more time….for me” into three parts and you end up with three parts of nothing much.
- If only
- I had more time
- For me
With more expected of and from you, more demands on time and with something to do squeezing out almost every single minute of the day it’s a wonder we haven’t all been reduced to a bunch of walking talking jibbering zombies.
With schedules crammed to bursting point some days there’s hardly time to make a bathroom stop and sleep let alone make time for the most important person. You.
I can only speak for myself here, but if I don’t have “me time” my mood takes a quick elevator ride up to the levels of cranky and crankier. Without making time every single day to do something that is important to and, for me, I simply would have a meltdown of epic proportions.
I make it my priority to prioritize me. Make it your priority to prioritize you.
Think about it. If I’m not happy, healthy and generally feeling good about myself then all other aspects of my life will suffer. Neither egotistical or selfish, it makes sense. After all, it’s up to me to get through my day, make the most of my life, make others happy, be a good person, achieve my goals and objectives. The list goes on with the one common factor, it’s all up to me.
To do this and more I need to take care of me first and not make myself the last priority on my to-do-list. Take the time and space that is right for you. Schedule a realistic amount of time that works for you and fits in with the rest of your day.
Whether it’s making time to exercise, go to the gym, read, write, bake, cook, plan, build, create, mediate, do yoga, blob and watch telly or to simply sit in quiet – write it, type it, either way, put it in your schedule and show up like you would for any other appointment.
Not a natural morning person I get up with the birds. As tough as it is to leave the comfort of my beautiful warm bed, I religiously get up an hour earlier for exercise me time. While churning out the running miles or pedaling my way through an RPM Spin cycle class I use this time to think and solve any problems. Often bringing a fresh perspective, stressful situations are eased or sorted. I also plan what to write, market and do that day. Within an hour my mind is clear of clutter and space has been made for the stuff that matters.
Clear clutter. Make space for you.
Put yourself at the top of your list and schedule time for you to do the one thing that will make you feel:
- you’ve had time for you
- good about yourself
- content and satisfied that you’ve had time to do what you enjoy
- able to give more of you to your family, work and others
- great about being busy for the remainder of the day
- less grumpy, dissatisfied, resentful or any other energy zapping negative emotion
- ready to conquer your day
- healthy and happy
- like you matter
Plan to make time for you.
My life my way takeaway for Clear Clutter. Make space for you – “Schedule time for you and show up like you would any other appointment.”
Clear Clutter. Make space for you is the title of Chapter 2 of my e-book Minnie Moo The Extraordinary Adventures of an Ordinary Cat.
Minnie Moo needed to clear his mind of negative clutter to overcome his fear of hawks and go on his adventure with Mr T.
It resonates with me too. If I don’t make space for me I’m not going to be the best person I can be.
Having recently completed my first semester at the E-Book University with the writing and publishing of Minnie Moo The Extraordinary Adventures of an Ordinary Cat – it’s time to share the love. Credit needs to be given to the sources who inspired and motivated me into a state of self belief – I too could become a writer and even better, a published author.
Now a fully fledged choir member I’m going to sing the praises of webinars. Costing nothing more than your time, I’ve now done at least ten online web seminars. Every single one of them has provided motivation, inspiration and practical know-how to help me achieve my writing goals.
In this early stage of my life my way, my participation in webinars has been one of the most critical and valuable tools to help me achieve my goals.
The last time I opened my marketing/training/on-going education budget wallet, a cloud of moths flew out. By doing selected and free webinars I have definitely accelerated my writing, content, the importance of marketing planning and how-to education. Not forgetting too, the motivation gained from listening to people share their success stories. Plus, they’ve helped me sort through the clutter of what-to-do breaking down the process into bite size chunks.
Webinars are the one thing I can afford and can’t afford not to do. Sure, some come attached with a sales pitch, others don’t. At the end of the day this doesn’t bother me. It’s up to me as to whether I take up the offer or not.
Rewind back half a year or so I didn’t even know what a webinar was. At that time I was interested in learning more about the world of blogging. A friend recommended Darren Rowse from Problogger and his highly regarded resource – Build a Better Blog in 31 Days. With my copy downloaded I got to work studying. His practical useful information helped me build an understanding on what it takes to build, maintain and work at having a blog. Along the way I joined his mailing list.
From there I was invited to join a number of webinars. Going beyond blogging his webinars showcased ordinary people turning their ideas and passions into successful online enterprises.
Fascinating and inspirational they all gave me a little more faith and confidence in my own vision.
If they could do it. I could do it too.
Webinars have encouraged and given me practical how-to-do-it tips on writing, e-publishing vs traditional publishing and marketing. Now having completed a few I noticed a thread of common touch points worth sharing. After trawling through my notes and, as a starting point I’ve whittled the pages down to:
Ten common themes from digital marketing/e-book webinars:
- Success doesn’t happen overnight.
- Build it and they will come. Find your community and influencers
- Be authentic. It’s much easier to write something you’re passionate about.
- The power of writing a good marketing plan.
- Judge content on quality not quality. Engage a great editor.
- Measure content by what’s promised in the title.
- Think big and go for it. Best Seller Mindset, not mediocre.
- Engage reader straight away. Connective writing = emotional connection.
- Don’t tell the reader what to think. Let them come to their own conclusions.
- Chapters can be great PR hooks. Think twitter 140 characters.
Four Webinar Legends who changed my way of thinking:
Brilliant, international, down-to-earth webinars featuring real people achieving extraordinary online success. He’s upfront. If there’s going to be a sales pitch he’ll let you know.
His how-to-publish a Kindle e-book webinar was the first to give me a practical step by step guide. After his webinar my mindset changed from maybe to, I’m going to do this. Daniel gives you plenty of warning about his sales pitch.
The marketing publicity PR guru of the Best Seller Blue Print fame associated with Chicken Soup for the Soul best selling author, Jack Canfield. His knowledge shared was invaluable. You can’t help but come away feeling like a winner! Leaving his webinar I’m more than convinced I’m on the successful writer with a plan expressway! Sure there’s a sales pitch. The product is top notch.
His social media and digital marketing webinars are educational often featuring people who excel in their chosen area and command the big bucks when presenting at industry related conferences. I always come away from his webinars wearing a different thinking cap. His Facebook marketing webinar was genius. Definitely dynamic he always has a sales pitch.
My Life My Way take away for Do A Webinar “Listen, learn, do and share.”
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Not wishy washy but real and definitely not the next one hit wonder song. My life My Way is me saying sayonara, arrividerci, good-bye to my old working life and opening the door to the possibility I can live my life my way while pursuing my dream of becoming a self published author.
Sounds simple huh? Well, so far it’s been a hair-raising-white-knuckle roller coaster ride, and, I love it! I wouldn’t trade places for the world. With bucket loads of self determination, focus, commitment, passion, friends & family and a true desire to kick any shady whiny thoughts of ‘I want to go shopping, I can’t do this anymore’ to the curb I’m getting there bit by bit, day by day. Slowly but surely.
This blog is a way of keeping me honest while I do the hard yards required to live my life my way and not run away to hide every time it gets too darn hard. Hopefully you’ll be inspired along the way.
Follow my ups and downs as I peel back the layers of what it takes to make the most out of our every day and visualizing dreams into reality. No matter how big or small taking the first step to live the rest of your life is well, the first step.